This is beginning of September 2021 and it has been tumultuous at best. It’s been a month since I joined a new organization, and things have been on a roller coaster ever since. If I say re-joined, probably would be best, because everyone are someone I worked with before, and how is that, is a different (albeit interesting!) matter altogether.
I was about to begin this post with the name, “Let them go” and then I realized, the reason I have the habit of letting go, since I ever remember. Not holding on to things, thoughts, people, places, anything that can be held on to. And that is because, every time I have held on to things, they have slipped away, and mostly never to come back.
On the other hand, when I have let go, the things I had always wanted not to go, have come back, in most of the cases, specially in cases where I needed it back! I should add, it comes back with some cost sometimes, but never a cost I could not afford.
So, not letting go, but letting them/that/it come back
Currently, I am relying on this member in my team whose role is crucial for the current activities and digital transformation, transitions, specially when I am stabilizing the department, laying foundations to not just build a home, but to place a already built, large and scaled home, and let me add, with in habitants in it, living their daily lives, without anywhere else to step out to.
And the person resigned. My first reaction was of shock and instinctive impulse to stop the attrition somehow. Then I realized, there is no good time to let go of anyone.
The individual is getting a hike that I cannot give, given my current circumstances and not at least now. And to stop him is to stop his dreams, and plans of future. I know the person is planning to buy a home. So, I let the person go, without any prejudice or contempt.
It’s not that difficult to let go, what’s difficult, is to let go without prejudice.
It’s always easy to hold on, because there are always reasons to do so. Because what we are holding on to, comes with apparent, visible, tangible reasons for holding them on to. And making it seemingly impossible to let go.
On the other hand, its difficult to let go, because we need to fill that vacuum with something, by our very human nature. And we do not know what that would be! Now, there is a risk, unknown ones mostly. And what it takes to accept this, are confidence, life-analysis, experience based decisions, hope. And you see, these are intangible, invisible, and obscure.
Hence, the fear of letting go. And I know, this is not the only reason. Though, one of the most significant and and omnipresent ones.
Though cliché, but what I have learnt from experience, is truth and complete truth.
When I let go, what comes back, comes to stay. What doesn’t, wasn’t supposed to stay.
And these are certain life lessons that found me in early stages of my career, compelling me to find them before they find me anymore.
Coming back to the precarious situation I am in, I let the person go. And what makes me happy today is, there are two, or possibly three persons joining in my team, whom I have worked with before.
And the thing here is, “DRUM ROLL!!” they were the ones I had let go, at one point of time! Now, if that isn’t worth a lesson to learn from, then nothing is!
With my indomitable spirit of passing on the learning from one silo of my life to another, this is one of the most widespread ones that has come with variety of colors and scents. Letting go. And this works wondrously with feelings too. Which, by the way, are the hardest to let go. They latch themselves to you, and in this case, it is otherwise.
You don’t let go of feelings. They let go of you.BUT HOW!
Now the only way I could ever find to let it happen is, decrease it’s significance by devoting the limited bandwidth I have, to something else, making someone or something else more important at that very time. Only then, these starved feelings becomes weaker and unlatch themselves. And I take the credit of letting them go! 🙂
Before I end, there is one thing I must share.
And one point of time, someone let me go too. And I am talking about more than one incidents.
I came back to them.